Aspects of the Feminine - C.G. Jung

After reading most of Augusten Burroughs’s books lately (Dry, Possible side effects and Sellevision) I bought this on impulse. I have only ever read Jung referenced as a part of my education but I felt this might help me with becoming more agreeable.
It is beautifully written and it is so deep yet really simple.
But the desired effect was short-lived...this book is actually making me re-enforce my ever so debilitating idealism.


“Nowadays we can hardly discuss the love problem without speaking of the utopia of free love, including trial marriage. I regard this idea as a wishful fantasy and an attempt to make light of a problem which in actual life is invariably very difficult. It is no more possible to make life easy than it is to grow a herb of immortality. The force of gravity can be overcome only by the requisite application of energy. Similarly, the solution of the love problem challenges all our resources. All else would be useless patchwork. The idea of free love was not invented with this aim in view, but merely to make something difficult appear easy. Love requires depth and loyalty of feeling; without them it is not love but mere caprice. True love will always commit itself and engage in lasting ties; it needs freedom only to effects its choice, not for its accomplishment. Every true and deep love is a sacrifice.



Love has more than one thing in common with religious faith. It demands unconditional trust and expects absolute surrender.
Just as nobody but the believer who surrenders himself wholly to God can partake of divine grace, so love reveals its highest mysteries and its wonder only to those who are capable of unqualified devotion and loyalty of feeling. And because this is so difficult, few mortals can boast of such an achievement. But precisely because the truest and most devoted love is also the most beautiful, let no man seek to make it easy. He is a sorry knight who shrinks from the difficulty of loving his lady. Love is like God: both give themselves only to their bravest knights.

I would offer the same criticism of trial marriages. The very fact that a man enters into a marriage on trial means that he is making a reservation; he wants to be sure of not burning his fingers, to risk nothing. But that is the most effective way of forestalling any real experience. You do not experience the terrors of the Polar ice by perusing a travel-book, or climb the Himalayas in a cinema.


Love is not cheap – let us therefore beware of cheapening it!
All our bad qualities, our egotism, our cowardice, our worldly wisdom, our cupidity – all these would persuade us not to take love seriously. But love will reward us only when we do. Sexuality dished out as sexuality is brutish; but sexuality as an expression of love is hallowed. Therefore, never ask what a man does, but how he does it. If he does it from love or in the spirit of love, then he serves a god; and whatever he may do is not ours to judge, for it is ennobled.”